(we will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.) we will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns. - national... / - competition on worries. we have two handsome actors and two beautiful singers with us today. baek zyoung. hello. it's nice to meet you all. choi taejoon. song jaehee.
kim sohee. if i were born again, i want to be born as taejoon or jaehee. - aren't they so handsome? / - whom? - what? / - which of them? i'll have to go to a sauna with them to decide. (let's go to a sauna first.) what for? muscles aren't what they seem with the clothes off.
jaehee, isn't this your first time on hello counselor? actually, i was on "happy together" a while ago. fortunately, people liked me for being myself. two weeks before me, though, taejoon was the guest, and he was hilarious. - he was funny. / - i was surprised. i'm afraid he'll overshadow me. that's a concern.
you should hold your cushion every now and then to show us you're wearing shorts. (show us you're wearing shorts.) you covered it up too well. i thought he wasn't wearing anything. taejoon? did you say you think you'd get along well with us? i think i have a connection with most of the hosts. - you and i... / - have a connection. first, dongyeop.
we have something in common. when i'm flustered or telling a racy story, my ears turn very red. is that the only thing? that and i also have huge hands. so does dongyeop. this is true. so far i haven't met - anyone with bigger hands. / - they're huge. let's see jaehee's hands.
- i wanted to compare mine. / - his are big, too. - his are big. / - compare them. - his are bigger. / - much bigger. i have bigger hands than the other taller guys. - i wanted to see how big yours are. / - really? - look. / - dongyeop's are big, too. my goodness. - they're huge. / - dongyeop. they're like feet.
big hands mean everything is big. big feet. i'll be you in my next life. (jaehee suffers a defeat laughing.) my ears are red. mine turned red, too. even your face turned red. taejoon's ears are redder than dongyeop's. what do we have in common?
not only do i enjoy delicious food, i eat a lot of it. i even went to songni mountain. - to eat what? / - mushroom stew. - that place is great... / - it was just... - do you know where he went? / - of course. - the grilled deodeok. / - yes. - i also... / - there's... stay out of our conversation.
we're talking here. - it's a family-owned restaurant. / - it is. i know the place. - the son inherited it. / - that's right. - do you really know the place? / - i see. - jaehee's trying to join in. / - one night, - i was watching tv. / - and? this food program featured meat soup with noodles from jeju island.
i flew there the next day. - really? / - alone? - yes. / - these people are weird. (they're weird.) - what about you and taegyun? / - i envied him. he makes so many voices. - that's a strength. / - and? - can you imitate people? / - i wanted to. - show us what you can do. / - okay.
start with ok hee. mister. you sound like old ladies. (amid the praise and jaehee's envy...) can you imitate any actors? i start off strong - by imitating lee sunkyun. / - let's hear it. the first order. four-spice pasta and a vongole. hurry up.
(yu haejin) this is very... (he'd started off so well.) sorry. (i get a shot at last.) he tried. he just couldn't finish it up. i heard he'd be here, so i practiced something.
doesn't he sound like a snake oil merchant? - he does. / - you need snake oil. he's not like his drama characters. i'll imitate actor kim youngchul. when he was in the drama, "rustic period," he played kim doohan. there's a scene where he negotiates with a us soldier. - can someone play that role? / - how? just start from one dollar and go up.
- that's it? / - yes. two dollars. four dollars. three dollars. - four dollars. / - four dollars. thank you, okay. what did we just do? - what was that? / - i'll try again. - why? / - i think i can beat that. - what? / - i can beat that.
- go for it. / - five dollars! - i'll imitate choi hongman. / - do it. (he imitates the voice of choi hongman.) we don't usually do this on hello counselor. (we don't usually do this.) hello, i'm choi hongman. i recently fought against aorigele. (a punch) (of victory.)
thank you. can you please stop now? you both look so normal. "dad, please" won for the second time last week. what did people say when your story aired? customers at my part-time job recognized me the most. they told me to cheer up and be strong, and i even got presents. what did you receive? clothes. someone wanted to buy me clothes.
did you sign something for someone? did someone ask for an autograph? sometimes, when i go to a restaurant to eat, people recognize me and ask for an autograph. what did you do to deserve such recognition? let's see if the father and daughter will win again. we will give the winner... - a 1,000-dollar gift certificate. / - wow. i'll go first today.
it's titled "i don't want to explain." hello, i'm a woman who's sick of explaining. people always whisper about me or mock me. (people whisper and mock her.) "hey, kid, how old are you?" "i bet you're still in primary school." "watch your manners." "i'm 23." "you're a liar."
"if you're 23, i'm 43." i'm not sure what you'll think when i say this, but i look very young for my age. i just hate it so much. "you're my type." "give me your contact number." high school students ask for my contact number. "hello, i'm here for the job interview." "how old are you?"
"you're in middle school, aren't you?" "are you kidding me?" "i'm an adult." "i'll work really hard. i promise." "go home. you won't be a good fit here." it's so hard to find a job. why do i look so young and why does that make life so hard? i'm not a child. i'm 23 and i'm an adult.
please stop making fun of me. (treat me like an adult.) what did you think of that? - well... / - you look young. - i had this face in school. / - how old do you look? - you looked old, then. / - in middle school... yes, i looked old for my age. most of my characters had their hair pulled back. i played a prosecutor when i was 22.
(taejoon in his early 20s) the prosecution is talking about the value of a life. when i was 23, i played a man with an infertile wife. was that your role? i can't have children. (he's emotional.) of course you can. do you look older if you show your forehead? - can you show us? / - if i do this...
- i have a bump here, so... / - that's a nice forehead. you look like a legal professional. show your forehead next time. i will. - can i come back? / - he looks different. - he looks different. / - he looks so different. jaehee looks surprisingly young for his age. - you... / - i was so surprised - when i heard his age. / - me, too.
are you sick? why are you moaning? how old i look is a huge trauma to me. - why? / - i was in "moon embracing the sun." - i played lim siwan's adult version. / - his brother? - yes. / - no. it's siwan after he grew up. the online community almost blew up. - why? / - some commented, "just keep siwan on." "why switch to..."
my character was yeom. "why is yeom so old?" - all of a sudden? / - yes. the viewers complained. i actually explained on social media. "my character went through a lot." - "that's why he looks old." / - did you say that? did you leave a comment online? why would you do something like that? - why did you do that? / - it's not your job. - don't you look young now? / - how old are you?
- he looks so young. / - i'm 38. - you look young, then. / - you look so young. - you win. / - sohee, what about you? - people think i'm in middle school. / - i see why. - you look young. / - i'm actually 22. - are you 22? / - yes. - she looks young. / - until we meet the lady, - i'm not sure how bad it is. / - i'm curious. how does she look that made her write to us?
please welcome our guest. (who's this lady having stress with her young look?) help her down the slide. (she rushes along.) she's so young. - no way. / - look. (kim miran) - careful. / - watch out. this is serious.
- she looks so young. / - sit over here. my gosh. this is crazy. - that's for your back. / - look. - right now... / - is this right? she... - gosh. / - she looks so young up close. introduce yourself. hello, i'm 23-year-old kim miran from incheon. (he's fascinated.)
how old do people think you are? i'm 23, but people think i'm in primary school or middle school. you look like it, though. it's so frustrating. are you sure you're 23? - yes, so i always... / - what? - your id? / - i always have my id card. she has great skin, too.
- her skin's... / - she looks like a kid in the photo. look. (she looks like a schoolgirl.) - doesn't she look like she's 10? / - this is crazy. you look so young in the photo. how did you feel when a school kid mocked you? he asked how old i was, so i said "i'm more adult than you are." "i'm more adult than you."
- "i'm more adult than you." / - when i said that, he said, "if you're 23, i'm 43." he laughed in my face. how old was the boy? i think he was in grade three or four. - he wasn't even in grade six? / - no. what if he really was 43? that could be true. when i was in high school, girls in middle school
would call me out for looking at them. i see that happening. whenever that happens... whenever someone asks how old you are, instead of answering, just light a cigarette. like this. there's no other way. can't you show them your id? even when i do, they don't believe me.
i once went to a convenience store to buy liquor. - sorry. / - even i would ask for you id though. - what happened? / - i showed them my id and said i'm 23 years old. - didn't they believe you? / - "you're in school." "i'll call the police." - "don't do this." / - that's bad. - "don't try this ever again." / - just say, "call the police," and light a cigarette.
she can't smoke forever. take it out like this. it must be so annoying. are you a heavy drinker? can you drink a lot? i can finish one bottle. a bottle of soju? good for you. you don't look like it at all. - is it hard to find a job? / - work.
i showed the interviewer my id when i went in. - i even told him my age. / - okay. what kind of shop was this? - a beer joint. / - it's alcohol again. what happened? i finally got the job, but the customers said, "you're a minor. bring your parents." - they shouted at me. / - they yelled at her. i had to stop working there.
i also hid my face and worked as an operator for a credit card hotline. - wasn't that fine? / - that's okay, then. - they thought i sounded like a child. / - i see why. "aren't you a student? should you be doing this?" - my voice didn't convey any trust. / - that happens. you talk like this with people, but didn't you sound professional on the phone? - show us how you did. / - hello?
- hello? / - hello. how can i help you? you sound like a kid. put your mom on. how does it make you feel? - i feel terrible. / - i'm sure you do. - it's despairing. / - her voice... she also talks like a child, too. she's short and has a tiny face. - it's so tiny. / - that makes it worse.
small faces are never good. miran's friend is here in the studio. where are you? - are you her friend? / - yes. - that's a real 23-year-old. / - that's it. please introduce yourself. we've been friends since we were 10 years old. you must understand how she feels, then. yes, i do.
when we were in high school, we took a bus. - we were together. / - tell some stories. as we got on, we both told the driver we were students. the driver made her pay the primary school kid fare, and i paid the adult fare. (i paid the adult fare.) - that's worse. / - i was so upset. you do look slightly more mature. just a little bit.
- it accentuates the difference. / - as she grew up, did your friend never change? her height's the same, but she lost weight. it must feel so strange. you're friends, but you're the only one aging. she stays the same. the difference is huge. - and they're friends. / - what else happened? she was bullied not only by people her own age,
but by younger people, too. i sometimes took them outside and taught them a lesson. - what a great friend. / - did you? - well done. / - what a friend. as her good friend, - i bet you felt sorry for her. / - i bet she did. on her 21st birthday, we went out for a drink to celebrate and have fun. the girls at the next table saw her and said,
- "why is that young kid drinking?" / - and? - they were rude. / - yes. miran was timid and scared she didn't say anything, but i was furious. so i told them to drink quietly if they came to drink. - yes. / - what a good friend. - really. / - hey, doesn't it make you feel good to be cheered on? i'm a little puzzled.
have you tried using makeup - to make yourself look more mature? / - hair, too. in order to look my age, i tried putting on eyeshadow and eyeliner. i tried everything. i tried heels, but they say i look like a delinquent. (people mistake her as a delinquent.) - a delinquent? / - she looks too young. - that's worse. / - seriously, look at her. if you gain weight, you might look older.
- weight. / - yes. i used to eat snacks a lot and i gained 6kg. didn't you look older then? i just looked chubby. - did you look younger? / - they told me it's worse. they thought it was baby fat. when she came out earlier, i could see that her gestures are a problem. she didn't walk normally. (tiptoeing)
she walked like this. she walked out like this. - what are you saying? / - just rewind the tape. watch the show later. (that's why we're checking.) come on out. (i'm watching you.) - that's wrong. / - i swear. she did that above the slide.
- she's still young. / - don't be like that. you're in your early 20s. wouldn't this problem solve itself later? the hardest thing right now is i actually have a 10-month-old... - i got married last year. / - what? i have a 10-month-old son. - you have a 10-month-old son? / - yes. wait, you have a baby?
- you have a son? / - yes. she's a mother. - did the doctor say anything? / - you had a baby? she has a 10-month-old baby. - she has a son. / - did you really give birth? yes. she got married. - who did you think, then? / - who else would? what do you mean, "did you really give birth?" (i can't believe it.)
of course she did. she has a baby. (it's hard to believe even with proof.) - how did people react? / - when i went to go see my doctor, - how did people react? / - everyone would - look at me as if i was underage. / - i'm sure. - they thought i was a teenager. / - they mistook you. they thought you were a single mother. - i can see how big of a worry it is now. / - so i
was scared to go to the hospital. whenever i go out with my son, people say that a middle school girl had a baby. (that kid had a baby.) they say that a kid had a baby. i wish people would stop talking about others. i agree. who cares? it's none of their business. that's what they say. i brought my husband in case people don't believe me.
- your husband? / - where is he? (who is the guest's husband?) - he looks young, too. / - no matter how much i look... - he looks young, too. / - yes. - he looks young. / - can you introduce yourself? my name is kwak chanyoung, and i'm 26 years old. you two are married, right? - yes. / - you can't lie on national television. i'm not lying.
do you like that your wife looks young? yes. however, people look at us strangely. when we go grocery shopping, they look at us as if we were siblings, instead of a husband and wife. people mistake us often. that's what happens. do you talk in some way to show that you're married? you could call each other "honey" or "dear." - "so and so's mother." / - "dear"?
- "dear." older people use that. / - i know. - my wife called me "honey." / - "honey." then a lady nearby yelled at me for making such a young girl pregnant and got mad at me. - people are so nosy. / - i was so upset. did you explain to her? we showed her our identification cards. we told her we're both adults. i asked her to stop.
it must be tiring to go through this all the time. - you came out to tell everyone, right? / - yes. - when the two of you are... / - is your baby here? - is your baby here? / - yes, he's here. - where is he? / - where is he? - can you come down with him? / - come for a minute. - he's here. / - it's the baby. - my goodness. / - gosh. - he was sleeping. / - my goodness.
- my goodness. / - he's so cute. - he's so cute. / - he's very cute. hold the baby. give her the baby. - he's not interested. / - go to mom. (who is this man?) - if they look like this... / - stand together. they look like siblings. imagine this as the grocery store. (their height difference is huge.)
- walk along. / - her husband is so tall. he's really tall. they look like siblings. can you turn around like this? - they look like siblings. / - they look cute. - i can see it. / - they do look like siblings. (they look like siblings from the back.) - she looks like his sister. / - she really does. - can the husband take him? / - he's too tall... if he was shorter, it would have been better.
please take the baby. are you going to take him? can't we keep him here? we can show that she's a mom. - zyoung... / - i'm not the mother, don't mistake me. (please don't mistake me.) did you have any difficulties during marriage? the baby had a fever of almost 40 degrees. - did you go to the hospital? / - yes. it was urgent. - they told me to bring the guardian. / - yes.
- i'm the guardian as his mother. / - you're the mom. i gave them my id and health insurance. - "i'm his mother." / - i told them i'm his mom. it would only take a minute for other people. it took me 10 minutes. - they were checking. / - they looked you up. (she feels sorry and sad for her sick baby.) - but the baby had a fever of 40 degrees. / - yes. i think it's good that you came on the show.
now a lot of people will know. you can be proud and raise your baby in peace. what was the most annoying thing recently? my husband asked me to buy a lottery ticket. - what a healthy hobby. / - he wants a big break. - his big break. / - i went to the convenience store - to by the lottery. / - okay. then they told me, "no. minors aren't allowed." i showed them my id and told them that i'm an adult.
- did they still say no? / - they never apologized. as i was leaving, i thought that i've lived long enough. - i'm old enough. / - gosh. i wasn't sure why i'm always treated badly. - it's not her fault. / - that person was too harsh. they should have apologized after seeing your id. they should have said that they mistook you. - why don't people apologize? / - that's what i mean.
what worries you the most? (what are you worried about?) - the baby will grow up soon. / - he'll grow. he'll go to school one day. - i can see that. / - i'll be called to the school. if i still look the same then, they would ask me if i'm a stepmother or his older sister. i don't want people to ask him if i'm his mom. i want him to grow up confidently.
i hope he doesn't become unconfident because of me. - you're / - i'm worried. - such a mature mom. / - if that happens, you must be worried about this. if he might find you embarrassing. you're scared he might get bullied because of it. in my last year of elementary, i had to - live separately from my parents. / - really? i'm an adult now. i now have a husband
and a child as well. i have a family. people keep treating me like a kid. it upsets me. if anyone has a child, they often become more mature. don't your neighbors around you say that you're too young to live together? i hardly go outside. - i see. / - i don't know. - you shouldn't live in seclusion. / - no.
- be proud. / - i'm sure you came today to do that. after the show, you should be more confident. - i hope you live like that. / - okay. what kind of wife is she to you? she should be hanging out with friends at her age. she looks after the baby but she never complains. (she never complained.) she's dear to me. it's just troublesome how other people see us.
- that's harsher than words sometimes. / - yes. - sometimes a look can be more piercing. / - i agree. of course. - a look can be harassment. / - it must be stressful. while you're here, why don't you say something you want to tell everyone? let's have him sit in front when you say it. (make an announcement with your son.) tell everyone you're his mom.
- hold him. what's his name? / - look, he's strong. - what's his name? / - what's his name? - kwak chambit. / - he's 10 months old? - chambit. / - yes. - chambit, i'm chanwoo. / - he looks like he's two. - he's so mature. / - hello. he hasn't cried once. okay, be confident. (she's saying a few words in confidence.) hello. i'm a mother of a boy.
i'm 23 years old. - please do not be rude to me. / - yes. i would appreciate it if you're polite. - if you're curious, don't talk behind me. / - yes. you can just ask me. you should also ask them to let you drink in peace. you should send a message to convenience store owners. ask the business owners. if i go to a bar, please let me drink freely.
(please, just let me drink.) - you can be confident now. / - that's so cute. although his mother has a baby face, the baby is so mature. - yes. / - i think he'll protect you later. - protect your mom. / - he doesn't cry at all. what do our guests think? is it a worry, zyoung? - i think it's a worry. / - i'm glad you came today. because i want her to become proud, it's a worry.
- jaehee. / - i think we should press the button, so that a lot of people find out. - i hope she can stay on the show. / - me, too. - as a winner, right? / - yes. let's make it happen, everyone. (let's make it happen!) he's trying to persuade people. press the button, then. (press your button first.) (jaehee thinks that it's a worry.)
i hope that she can feel confident as a mother. - therefore, i'll press the button. / - all right. if you empathize with the worry, please press the button! (what does the audience think?) - in five, four, / - in five, four, - three, two, one. / - three, two, one. - stop! / - time's up.
i think that the saying is so true. "a woman may be weak, but a mother is strong." she can no longer put up with it because of her baby. - right. / - that's what gave you courage, right? - we made the right decision. / - yes. sir, you should console and support her. please say a few words. my lovely wife. gosh, that's so sweet.
let's not worry about what other people think - and just focus on each other. / - yes. let's be happy. i love you! - that was so sweet. / - and, you should say a few words to your friend, too. don't worry about what other people say. i hope you can focus on your family. you should say something to those who jumped to conclusions about her.
i'll teach you all a lesson, so you'd better watch out. (you'd better watch out!) you should think like that, too. (thanks, friend.) all right. many of you must be so frustrated. "dad, please" received 158 votes. "i don't want to explain."
i trust that she'll no longer need to explain. how many votes did it get? show us! (the result) it must've gotten over 100 votes. did it get 160 votes? - will it reach 160? / - is it 150? many people pressed the button. (will it get 160 votes and become the winner?) - many pressed the button. / - let's go up to 160!
that was so close. - seriously. / - yes. an employee mustered up his courage to send this story to us. hello. i work at a clothing store. about 80 customers visit our store daily. it's just me and the owner, so we're short-staffed. but my boss is always like, "we have so many customers today. i should leave."
"do a good job. i'm leaving!" my boss is never at the store. i asked him why he does it. "boss, why aren't you at the store?" "oh, i'm out for a drive with friends." "i'm out wakeboarding." "i'm drinking on the beach." - "work hard. i have to go!" / - why does he do that? my boss goes out and has all the fun.
(he just goes out to have fun.) one day, he went out for lunch and disappeared, so i messaged him. "boss, it's 7 p.m." "why are you still not back?" he messaged back. "i can't come back today." "i'm in boracay now." - what? / - boracay? - "the ocean here is beautiful." / - seriously? he goes on trips abroad 15 times a year.
- i'm jealous. / - that's inspiring. i do everything he has to do on top of my tasks, so i go home at midnight and i don't get any days off. "boss, are you going to keep taking off?" "i can't work here if that's the case." "gosh, don't say that. all right." "i won't go on trips anymore. i promise." and exactly a week later, my boss took off to philippines.
gosh, who is this boss? my life has been like this for five years already. what is wrong with my boss? that's the story we received. (please stop my boss.) don't employees feel more comfortable - when bosses aren't around? / - exactly. - it's not even his store. / - yes. i can actually relate to the story
because c.i.v.a was created under the two ceos, lee sangmin and tak jaehoon. - lee sangmin and tak jaehoon. / - yes. congratulations. they have to work, but they're never in the office. did they get arrested, or did they just go out? (did they get arrested, or did they just go out?) let's meet the sender of this story who is stressed out because of his boss.
- welcome! / - come on out! (who is the employee that has to do all the work?) (he doesn't look easy.) he's charming. (lee jisang) it looks like he'd be good at fighting. - he's... / - i must say that he looks like a well-dressed monk. (he looks like a well-dressed monk.)
he looks like a fashionable monk. - may you attain buddhahood. / - welcome. does your boss really take off that much? how often does he come to the store? he comes to the store about two to three times a week, but he only stays for 10 minutes. so customers stay longer than him. (customers stay longer than him.) so many customers think
- that i'm the owner. / - i see. - he does look like an owner. / - i agree. i think he looks like taeyang of bigbang. you're going to get in deep trouble. (do you want to get into trouble?) (we do see a bit of resemblance.) business owners usually try to expand their businesses. isn't that what he's doing? he doesn't need to go out to take care of any work.
as soon as he arrives at the store, he goes, "i'm going out for a drive." or he says, "i'm going out for food." he recently got into wakeboarding, as well. - but as an employee, / - exactly. is it that much of a worry for you? - the store gets super busy. / - is the business good? about 80 to 100 customers come during the peak hours. - the store does really well. / - and you're all alone.
i skip meals all the time because i have to work. - because you're alone. / - i see. - are you the only employee? / - yes. then ask your boss to hire someone else. i haven't been able to because i rarely see him. you don't even get a chance to talk to him. - he only stays for 10 minutes. / - even if you bring it up, you won't know when he'll respond. does he really go on trips abroad 15 times a year?
he goes abroad one or two times a month. - how is that possible? / - every month? even two weeks before i joined the army, i already told him that i had to quit, but he called me out of the blue and said, "jisang, can you work one or two more days?" so i said yes, thinking he must be short-staffed. then i couldn't get a hold of him from the second day, and i found out
that he went to singapore for a week. that week before joining the army is so precious. exactly. time is gold. taejoon, have you completed your military service? no, i haven't. - then how do you know? / - what do you even know? - my friends... / - what do you know? i've seen my friends drinking for seven days straight. - what about you, jaehee? / - the marine corps.
- you were in the marine corps? / - yes. then you must know how important that time is. it's very important. even the fact that he took off without telling me anything stressed me out. he came back two days before i had to head to the army. - gosh. / - "i have to leave for the army." no man should put up with such a thing. but to be honest, most employees
- can you be quiet? / - would just close the store. on one weekend in march of this year, he suddenly said that he was going out for food. then, he went overseas. (he went overseas for food.) - to where? / - where did he go? - that's when he went to boracay. / - sorry? - that's when he took off to boracay. / - yes. we should meet his boss now.
where are you, sir? hello. (say whatever you want.) i can't understand him because i can take off when i want to as the owner. i should be able to do anything i want. do i have to get his permission before i go on trips? i cannot understand him at all. we can't understand you either, sir.
we heard that the store gets very busy. then, you should hire another employee. - i didn't know that it'd get busy. / - pardon? - i didn't know. / - he didn't know. the store is busy nowadays. i can't predict when customers will come. shouldn't you stay and work with him? please ask him about the week before i joined the army. - ask him about that time. / - why did you do that?
that was... i apologize. i apologize. (goodness) did you serve in the army? yes, i did. then you must've known how he felt. i forgot what it was like because it was ages ago. he said he forgot because it was so long ago. - that's why he could take off like that. / - yes.
you should send him on vacations to reward him for his hard work and take turns to watch the store. he should stay at the store because he's my employee. (he has no idea how his employee feels.) you must have set work hours. - you work outside of those hours, right? / - yes. then, do you get overtime pay? - no, there's no such thing. / - he doesn't.
report him to the ministry of labor. (taejoon is feisty.) don't underestimate taejoon. taejoon, i like you. you're perfect for our show. i like that you're so blunt. - that was great. / - he said what i wanted to say. there are those campaigns about minimum wage, too. he deserves to get overtime pay. i guess he's not on minimum wage.
sir, what is going on? i get that you're the owner, but you can't take off as you please. you're doing a great job! i like how you're interrogating him. don't you get worried about the sales? what if your sales drop? i don't worry. - why not? / - you should stop stressing.
i trust jisang. - i fully trust him. / - see? he trusts jisang. so it's because you trust him. then what do you do and how do you spend your time while your boss is vacationing overseas? most people know that i'm just an employee and not the owner. so there are times that i get talked down to. he doesn't own the building,
- so we have to pay rent. / - right. without informing me about it at all, he just took off to go on a trip that day. - when the rent was due? / - that day? it would've been great if we made enough that day for the rent, - but that wasn't the case. / - of course. fortunately, i had gotten paid recently, so i used - some of it to pay the rent. / - with your pay?
that's how i paid it. - you paid the rent? / - yes. if he keeps making you angry like that, you could just stop working altogether to teach your boss a lesson. i'm working hard just in case i... (just in case...) (i'm not sure what it is, but don't say it.) - i might... / - will you take over the store?
yes, there's a possibility. - that's why he works hard. / - that's inspiring. he'll stab you in the back one day. (i underestimated him!) is there a reason why you're so hard to get a hold of? cell phones function very well these days. it doesn't work well when you're overseas. i've traveled abroad, and mine worked well. - exactly. / - even if your phone didn't work,
you should've remembered to pay rent. - you should've given him a heads up... / - i forgot. it doesn't sound like he cares about the store at all. i guess you're very stressed out from work. yes, a little. but we heard you only stay at the store for 10 minutes. according to your logic, your employee right here should leave korea forever. - we'd be holding his funeral. / - he'd be dead by now.
if working for 10 minutes is that stressful... i think he has already transcended his stress. (he has transcended everything.) is there a reason why you go overseas so often? every travel site has a separate section called lcc, which stands for "low cost carriers." in that section, you find special promotions - crazy deals, right? / - once or twice a year. for the philippines, you can find deals for 10 dollars.
- i'm talking round trips. / - seriously? round trips to japan are as low as 60 dollars. - yes, i've seen those. / - this happens very rarely, but going to jeju island could cost 1.5 dollars. (going to jeju island could cost 1.5 dollars.) how is that possible? is there a reason? are there 12 stopovers or what? no, that's not the case. how can there be stopovers? would you stop in incheon,
- then go to busan? / - he'd make multiple stops. - i don't understand how it's possible. / - right. it's a special promotion created for marketing. from what i know, only few seats are allocated for it. - it's like bait. / - yes, to lure customers. they make people compete for three super cheap seats. - when they're sold, that's it. / - right. then how many times did you travel abroad last year? i went abroad 17 times last year.
(that is so impressive.) - oh, my. / - that's more than once a month. - yes. / - were they all cheap flights? - all of them were cheap deals. / - how many times did you go abroad since the store opened? since then, i've traveled overseas about 43 times. i've been to the philippines about 27 or 28 times. i've been to the states and taipei, too. i've been to singapore twice,
and i've been to japan about 10 times. then your passport must be filled with those stamps. he travels cheap at least. - gosh, look at that. / - that's his passport. - my goodness. / - unbelievable. - there are so many stamps. / - what if he is an undercover cia agent, not a clothing store owner? (he must be an undercover agent.) - do you think so? / - he seems suspicious.
it seems like your boss likes to travel. could you try to understand him? you two seem close. - he buys those travel deals. / - exactly. you said we seem to be close friends, and he said he looks up those deals. do you know what i do as soon as i get to work? i turn on the computer and check those websites to see if any promotions are up and apply for him. - you apply for him. / - so he makes you do it.
do you make the reservations for him? i don't, but i do all the research for him. one day, he called me. it was actually my birthday. we had been working together for about five years, so i thought he called to wish me - you must've been grateful. / - a happy birthday. but he was like, "why didn't you book the promotion?" he called to scold me.
- on your birthday? / - yes. he said nothing about your birthday? you do some work outside of the store, right? not really. - he's saying he doesn't work. / - i do. i do. when he's away, i have to do all of his work. the bank account is under his name, so i go to the bank in person to do direct deposits - to pay our suppliers. / - that's so troublesome.
let's say that i close the store at 10 p.m. when i finish paying the suppliers, it's midnight. (he finishes at work at midnight.) right, that must be the case. all of you must be wondering how busy he gets for him to send a story like this to us. so we prepared a footage that can back up his argument. this security camera footage shows him at work. let's watch it now. you can see it over there.
(security camera footage from the store) i see him. he's recommending clothes to a customer. (there's only one person working.) - customers keep coming in. / - my goodness. the store is very busy. - how do you handle that alone? / - it must be hard. - is that how busy it usually gets? / - yes, every day. usually in security camera footage like this, distinguishing employees from customers is hard,
but we can recognize you right away here. (he definitely stands out.) not many people look like him. he finally drinks water. he doesn't even have time to drink water. how do you feel? you feel sorry, right? well, i still think it's his job. he's the sales associate. (i can only laugh.) - if two big guys like us / - but it gets so busy.
help customers together in that tiny store space, it just gets more hectic. so i leave the store to help him out. - that's why i go out. / - i see. - you leave to help him out? / - he's really funny. - i think he's such a great worker. / - i agree. don't you want to open up your own store? i don't have any money saved up. i'm getting sad all of a sudden.
if you open up something, it'll be so successful. - definitely. / - he seems to have many regulars. the owner isn't the reason why the store is so busy. - exactly. / - as we saw in the footage, he takes such meticulous care of all customers. - customers must think that he's the owner. / - yes. - his boss should thank him. / - that's why - we invited one of the regular / - a customer! - customers today. / - the one beside the boss?
- a regular customer! / - hello! yes, hello. how often do you shop at the store? i stop by three to four times a week. - in a week? / - every week? i stop by to see jisang even if i don't need to shop, but the owner is never around. jisang works alone all the time, - so i feel very bad for him. / - you feel bad for him.
so i bring him coffee and keep him company. isn't that what his boss should be doing? - that's right. / - yes. he sounds more mature than the boss. then did you know jisang and his boss before, or did you just meet them at the store? i met jisang at the store. - and you've become close. / - yes. then, do you empathize with jisang's worry?
of course. it's... gosh, seriously... you look like you're about to punch him. once, he asked me to watch the store because he was going on a trip abroad, so i helped him out. he asked a customer to do that? - he's so shameless. / - because of that experience, i can definitely understand jisang.
it's... how should i say this? goodness. there were many times that he got in touch with me and asked me for help on the day of his departure. whenever i received any customer complaints, he never picked up his phone when i tried calling him. he called back three hours after the customer left. those things stressed me out so much. he's not even an employee.
he was just helping out as a regular customer, - so it must've been very stressful. / - yes. - did he pay you at least? / - i'm sure he did. about that... i'd like to ask him about it again. do you think that you paid me properly? yes. he did pay me. then, let's hear it from the boss's perspective.
"i bring gifts for him from my trips" "and take good care of him." give us examples. jisang is a healthy young guy in his 20s, which is when men are the most passionate, so i bought a racy magazine for him. he seriously loved it so much. aren't i right? - a racy magazine? / - yes. taejoon and dongyeop's ears have turned red. (we understand.)
the voluptuousness wasn't something that you can see in korea. (they're all blushing.) i was satisfied. it must've been a japanese magazine. - goodness. / - look at him. he had those sunglasses on to cover his eyes. you look like a hong kong actor. i'm sure they have a special relationship.
- otherwise... / - what's your relationship exactly? we actually met as coworkers. we used to work together, and he asked me to work for him when he opened his own store. i trusted him, but... you should've tried to have a serious talk with him. "what am i to you?" when we had soju together recently, i asked him, "am i"
"your good friend, or am i just an employee to you?" then he said, "jisang, i think of you as my brother." "i do this because i trust you." we took an oath of friendship and promised to work hard together. - good. / - he promised to change. then he went to the philippines a week after that. he went on another vacation. i'd actually like to say something.
working and traveling are two separate things. my trip was already booked, so i had to go. what did i even expect? (you still betrayed our promise!) then how many vacation days do you get in a year? i haven't really taken many vacations. when i ask him, "can i hang out with my friends then?" he goes, "no. i'm going to the philippines that day." "no. i'm going to boracay that day."
- you can't even take vacations. / - he's too nice. - how can he be that nice? / - it's your fault. - i'm sorry. / - he's too good at his job. do you have a girlfriend by any chance? - yes. / - you do? - you have time to date? / - you have a girlfriend? - even during wartime... / - he does? - things happen even during wartime. / - that's funny. - oh, my! / - seriously?
- she's so stunning. / - please give her a mic. was she also one of the customers? how did you two meet? when i visited busan, i asked him for directions. - who asked? / - i did. - i guess you're not from there. / - i live in seoul. - oh, you're from seoul? / - i live right by here. he gave me his business card then.
good job! (you're a go-getter!) so it's a long-distance relationship, then. - yes. / - we've been dating for two months, but this is the first time i'm seeing her in a month. what are some of the challenges in your relationship? - the distance must be one. / - i can't see him often. we saw each other once in the last month, and i had to go to busan for that.
even when i was there, we had to stay in the store. he can't go on a vacation, either. you must hate his boss. - yes, i don't really like him. / - why? (he's embarrassed.) doesn't your boss let you take some time off if you tell him that your girlfriend is visiting? - doesn't he say that? / - he said you're his brother.
i did take one day off, but i had to work briefly because my customer came. sir, when you see this couple, don't you sympathize with how much they must miss each other and how much they'd want to spend time together? but jisang is an employee, so he has no choice. - well... / - don't you think you're being a tyrant? no, i don't. as an employer, i pay him - for the work he does. / - that must
- hurt his feelings. / - that's right. - you said he's your brother. / - it must hurt him. he said he thinks of jisang as his brother, but now he's saying he's just an employee. - "i'm his employer." / - he paid for his work. exactly. he's being contradictory. i think that i take good care of him. the only thing you've done is getting him the magazine. he really loved that gift.
let me ask the girlfriend. did you know - about the magazine? / - oh, no! please pass the mic to her. did you know about the magazine? yes, i've seen it. - you have? / - yes. - she's cool. / - did jisang brag about it? yes, he did. he said the model is pretty. she's so understanding.
would you be willing to give him a paid vacation? as we are very busy, i don't think he can take time off. he would only need three days. you could ask the man sitting next to him to work instead. he is a customer. (i am a customer.) seriously.
you went abroad 43 times. your employee has a girlfriend. can't you give him a three-day vacation? i will give him a vacation next year. - what? / - he will give him one next year. why can't you give him a vacation this year? after the summer comes the fall. we need to focus
on the inventory, sales and so on. does that mean you won't travel anymore this year? i am going to taipei in september. - what? / - i am going to osaka in november and boracay next february. you just said that you need to focus on inventory. must you travel? - let's look at it objectively. / - sure. you said the tickets cost up to 10 dollars.
- yes. / - you can decide to not go. i don't want to waste money. - it's only 10 dollars. / - it's very cheap. - it's really not much. / - cut him some slack. for goodness' sake. (hitting) i am sorry. pass it to him. i am sorry. why don't you close up for a few days?
- it's holiday season. / - that's a good idea. it's holiday season. i cannot close the shop. you never tried it. give it a try. it cannot be done. look at jisang. he must be shocked. what upsets me the most is that he is treating me like an employee
even though we used to be friends. - i see. / - he treats you as an employee. - yes. / - i see. there is a reason why i visited hello counselor. i cannot let this situation continue. i wanted to clearly express my thoughts to him. say what you want to say. i am only human. i have thoughts...
(i have thoughts...) of my own. if this continues, i will have to go my own way. please travel a little less so that we can work together. (i hope we can work together like the old days.) i hope you will think of me as a brother once again. i didn't know it was such a serious worry for him.
i didn't tell him about my future plans in case they would make him arrogant. i will give him his share from now on. can you tell us what your plans are? - no, i can't. / - i see. i will talk with jisang and keep my promise. you move up a rank in the army after two years. i know.
- five years passed. / - you didn't go to the army. no, i didn't. zyoung. i think rather than being a worry, this matter calls for a decision. i will press the button since i know how jisang feels. (zyoung thinks it's a worry.) - taejoon. / - taejoon. i cannot control myself in the face of injustice.
this is injustice, sir. he is like a brother to you. i think it's a worry for sure. - seriously. / - you think it's a worry. working as an actor, i have known people who proclaimed to be my brothers even though he was the top dog in reality. that's right. - i am reminded of those days. / - i see.
i want to work for jisang. - let's do that. / - i can work there. - you will bring in customers. / - it's a good idea. it's sorted then. sir. that customer can work a day and i can work a day. do you want to join us? (do you want to join us?) that gives jisang three days.
that's how much you want jisang to go on a vacation. you think it's a worry. (jaehee thinks it's a worry.) you are a man of busan. be generous and send him on a vacation this summer. do it this once. - i think it's a worry. / - okay. if you think it's a worry, please press the button.
time's up. one thing is certain. if he had an evil motive with jisang, he wouldn't have agreed to be on the show. i don't know how he plans to show his appreciation, but i am sure he's thought it out. jisang. well...
working with me for five years must have given you heartaches and struggles. i have plans. i cannot reveal what they're here, but please wait a bit longer. i will do my best. let's see how many votes the story got. show us the result. "let's sort this out." - let's see the last digit. / - is it 159? we will have a new winner if it is 159.
("let's sort this out") the story got 149 votes. (it is eliminated by a difference of 10 votes.) - that was close. / - i know. - i thought he could win. / - me too. i have a worry from a girl in ninth grade who has been pushed around by one person. "the most selfish mom." before i read the worry, i have a request for taejoon.
i think you are good at acting as a woman. - please come here and help me. / - go ahead. since you are playing a woman, walk like one. (sexy) what was that? - can you speak with a dialect? / - a dialect? imagine yourself as a girl in ninth grade. - okay. / - get ready. hello, i am a girl in ninth grade
from changwon, gyeongsang province. my life is quite turbulent these days because of my mother. "my daughter, what do you fancy?" "meat! i want meat." - "is that so?" / - he is good. - "you want meat?" / - he is good. (you want meat?) - "let's eat raw fish today." / - "why?"
"i am craving fish." "what are you saying? i want meat." "why do you only think about yourself?" "you are so selfish!" "don't eat if you don't want to." "we are eating fish today no matter what." - why did she ask in the beginning? / - i know. i don't know who she is calling selfish. my mother is always like this.
the phone rings. "come straight home after school today." "look after your brother, okay?" "i can't. i made plans with my friends." - "cancel it." / - "i can't!" "i promised them a week ago." (i will not yield.) - he spoke firmly. / - he did. "this is why you don't have any friends."
"i don't know how you can be so selfish." "i have plans, too." she swears when things don't go her way. she is the most selfish person i know. please talk some sense into her. (please talk some sense into her.) let's meet this girl who's troubled by her selfish mom. please come on out. (who is troubled by a selfish mother?)
hold her hand. (jung jiwon) she is cute. why does your mother call you selfish? i have always thought she is selfish, but she tells me that i am selfish. i visited the show to find out who the selfish one is. (let's settle the matter.) she wants to settle it for once and for all.
she asks questions with an answer in mind. she asks me what i would like to eat. if i tell her that i want to eat webfoot octopus, she ignores me and says we're eating raw fish. i don't eat raw fish. how can she decide on a menu you don't eat? when i refuse to eat that, she calls me selfish and tells me to starve. - she says that? / - yes. also,
she won't let me do what she does. one time, i ate a snack that was in the closet. - you ate it. / - why was it in the closet? - she... / - she wanted to eat it alone! - did she hide it? / - she hid it for herself. - my goodness. / - she's your mother, though. does she eat it in the closet? she said... she got mad at me for eating what is hers.
she works at a restaurant. - i see. / - when i am done with school, i have to babysit my 14-month-old brother. your brother is a lot younger than you. yes. i babysit him from 4:30 p.m. on weekdays. i cannot play with friends or take lessons. i cannot babysit if i take lessons. once, i told my mom that i have to play with friends. - she called my friend. / - she did?
she canceled my plans without telling me. while you are babysitting, does she work? no, she only works until 5 p.m. after that, she swims or does yoga. - what? / - she exercises. she comes home at 10 p.m. she spends five hours before she comes home. - you babysit until then. / - the baby's 14 months old.
let's talk to jiwon's mother. - let's do that. / - i don't understand her. where are you, jiwon's mother? - it's nice to meet you. / - is that her mother? she is so young. she is jiwon's mother. i am the mom who eats raw fish and goes swimming. it's not something to be proud of. (it's not something to be proud of.)
who do you think is more selfish, you or jiwon? i think jiwon is more selfish. why? you have to make sacrifices for greater good. jiwon only thinks about herself. that's why i say she is selfish. can you give us an example? - please elaborate. / - she talked about eating out. my husband had been craving raw fish.
we usually try to follow jiwon's wishes - since she babysits her brother. / - wait a minute. jiwon can't eat raw fish. you cannot call her selfish for that. that's like offering soft-shelled turtle soup and calling her selfish for refusing it. it doesn't make any sense, but that's exactly what you did. why do you hide snacks in the closet?
is that for the greater good, too? do you eat them in the closet? did you hide them for the greater good? i am a bit childish. when i come home after a tiring day, eating that snack is a great joy. i opened the closet to eat it only to find it gone. i didn't know what to think.
- buy two, then. / - i was so mad. - you can buy it on your way home. / - it's cheap. my children always eat up the snacks i buy. - children are like that. / - it's only natural. - can't children eat snacks? / - kids do that. i have a preference, too. then you should store them in a safe. - that's a good idea. / - kids love snacks. if your daughter wants webfoot octopus,
can't you go to the restaurant with her? i hate webfoot octopus. - goodness. / - she must hate it with a passion. - she is selfish. / - this is ridiculous. i have strong likes and dislikes and jiwon and i have completely different tastes. (is that my fault?) - i can't believe she is mine. / - her dad is here. who do you think is more selfish?
we would really like to know. (he looks nervous.) - be honest. / - he is being cautious of his wife. i think they are the same. - really? / - he thinks they are the same? are you scared of your wife? why are you cowering? (is he cowering?) are you mindful of your wife right now? (glancing)
he is being mindful. a little bit. "a little bit." you go swimming and enjoy leisure while jiwon babysits on weekdays. that's selfish. - that's so selfish. / - it used to be like that. - she's a child. / - she doesn't babysit every day. how many days a week does she babysit?
you mean on weekdays, right? do you babysit no matter what on weekends? - on weekends, / - your mom is in charge? i help out at the restaurant. - my goodness. / - you work on weekends, too. on how many weekdays do you babysit? i think i babysit three or four days a week. - that's a lot. / - you babysit your brother often. who goes swimming every day?
- my mom does. / - most people go twice a week. - does she go every day? / - yes. are you a professional swimmer? i go swimming every day. it's the only joy i have in life. you said snacks are your joy, too. many things give you joy in life. that's just how i enjoy life. i relieve my stress by swimming.
how is jiwon supposed to relieve her stress? - i am curious about that. / - what do you do? "i am curious about that"? why don't we ask? i relieve my stress by hanging out with friends, but i don't have time to do that anymore since i have to babysit my brother. - how do you babysit? / - pardon? i change diapers, clean baby bottles,
play with him and bathe him. so you are raising him. a child is raising a child. i also do the laundry and dishes. you also do the laundry and dishes. one day, jiwon said she didn't want to take lessons anymore. neither my husband nor i wants to force our children to study.
we only want them to be happy. we respected her decision. when i asked her to help me take care of the baby, she said she will. i came to depend on her more from then on. also, she is good with the baby. (jiwon is good with the baby.) at her school... the baby's name is yiyeon.
people call her yiyeon's mom. you seem happy about that. i love that. you want your children to be happy. is that why you make jiwon babysit and work? is that it? as you can see, i got married at a young age. i became a mother as soon as i got married
even though i was not ready. raising children was hectic. i was left alone with childcare back then but i now have someone to share it with. it makes me very happy. i can finally live happily. it may be happiness for you, but it's coercion and stressful for her. i did not force her from the start.
i would have listened had she complained. didn't you tell her that you are struggling? when i tell her that, she says i shouldn't mind taking care of my brother. she did tell you. i cannot find someone to babysit at the last minute. however, jiwon has free time. that's what you think. (it looks like the argument will continue for a while.)
the person who needs to speak up is jiwon's dad. (he is stuck between jiwon and her mom.) i am sure you have worries, too. does your wife act selfish around you, too? (he is mindful of his wife.) why are you so mindful of her? be honest. are you scared of your wife? she is fiercer than she looks.
(she is fiercer than she looks.) (you can't ignore the situation forever.) - "she is fiercer than she looks." / - he is cowering. - he must be scared. / - let me ask you this. jiwon's mom enjoys her leisure, right? - she goes swimming and such. / - that's right. do you think your daughter enjoys leisure to relieve her stress? - she doesn't seem to have time. / - i agree.
- she doesn't have time. / - you must feel bad for her. (they try to get him to open up.) i invoke my right to remain silent. (i invoke my right to remain silent.) - what? / - your right to remain silent? what is he talking about? you are not at court. him saying that means he is wary of his wife.
so until now, your wife and daughter have been calling each other selfish. they must have wanted you to settle the dispute. when i interrupt the argument between them, my wife grows angry and says, "are you crazy? what do you think you are doing?" she can be foul-mouthed. - she does that in front of the children? / - yes. she belittles you in front of the children?
yes. she has never apologized to me. - i am not surprised. / - this happened recently. i was sleeping at 2 a.m. she called and told me to pick her up. i woke up and went to get her. when i got there, she got angry at me for taking too long. only three minutes had passed. - you got there in three minutes? / - yes.
i told her to check the time. i told her it was absurd for her to get angry at me. she only got angrier. (his wife got angrier.) a simple apology would have resolved the situation. that upset me very much - so i gave up. / - of course it did. if his story is true, everyone agrees you should have apologized.
- he got there in three minutes. / - right. since i had been drinking, it felt like more time had passed than it really had. i thought 15 or 20 minutes had passed. he showed you that only three minutes had passed. you should have apologized then. (you could have apologized then.) - why can't you apologize? / - why not?
i have not apologized often - in my life. / - it seems that way. it must be because i was the oldest child in my family. i grew up strong. i was raised strong. every decision and judgment were mine to make. your explanation does not make sense. you are just justifying yourself.
you are right. however, (however) i take responsibility for the decisions i make. if i make a bad decision, i get criticized. i think i bear the criticism. why does she make all the big decisions? why can't jiwon's father do it? (doesn't jiwon's father get a say?)
why do you always have the final say? he is already in a groggy state. it has to do with my husband's personality. one time, we went to a rest stop while going on holiday. the place was packed. i found four seats for the family. i asked my husband to hold the seats and went away for a moment with jiwon.
- the seats were gone when we came back. / - why? he couldn't tell other people the seats were taken. - he just stood up. / - yes. i realized that i shouldn't entrust him with decision making. i have to be the one in charge. i learned that. you must have got an earful that day. - you lost the seats. / - a little bit.
(my goodness.) we run a jjamppong restaurant. - jjamppong? / - yes. one time, the soup got into a customer's eyes. the spicy soup was hurting the customer's eyes, so he wanted to wash it out. he said that the bathroom door was locked. my wife said that he needed the key. the customer said that she should have told him.
- he was annoyed. / - it's understandable. when he said that, my wife told him, "don't come here if you are going to get angry." (don't come if you are going to get angry.) i can sense her personality. upon hearing that, i told her that she should have responded with more finesse. she said, "don't tell me how to run my restaurant."
it's frustrating when she doesn't listen to me. i can tell that jiwon's dad is dispirited. it looks like he doesn't have high self-esteem. he's your husband. one time, i fought with a friend. when i went to school the next day, my friend called me a coward. she called me a mommy's girl.
i had no idea what she was talking about. i found out later that my mom went behind my back and scolded my friend over the phone. she shouldn't have done that. - that's bad. / - what did she say? i don't know exactly what she said. our relationship became strained and other friends began to speak badly about me.
it happened in primary and middle school. it's an unspoken rule between children - to never involve an adult. / - of course. - it gets worse. / - what did you say to her friend? if there is a problem, i need to sort it out right away. i hoped my talk will help them reach an understanding. - it worsened the situation. / - the problem is
that in the end, the problem wasn't fixed. she does it again even though she knows she shouldn't. have you ever seriously talked to her when things didn't go the way you wanted? many times. one day, i was very tired from doing chores and i told mom that i was so tired. she said that is why i don't have friends. she said i'm rude, ill-mannered,
and selfish. (they are shocked.) why would she say that? she doesn't have friends because you call them! she's allowed to say she's struggling with the baby. when i start a conversation, i have to end it. but she's not like that. when i call her, she shouts, "what?" - it's because she's tired. / - she's frustrated.
whenever i try to have a conversation with her, she complains endlessly. she whines then cuts me off, which makes me not want to talk to her. that's understandable on your side, but since she's struggling so much, you could say, "i'm sorry it's too tough on you." "but i really need your help." you could say that. instead, you say she's rude and selfish.
- why would you say that? / - you keep attacking her. - why did you say that? / - that's not what i said from the start. once we started talking and we don't see eye to eye, i say things that i don't mean. i have a short temper. i wish she'd understand and listen to me when i tell her nicely. but she doesn't. they have similar personalities.
that's perhaps why they argue so much. in the end, you're doing everything you want. you say that's who you are and that you have to do it. - "this is who i am." / - that's what you say. - right. / - but jiwon never gets to do anything she wants. (please stop looking at everything) (from your perspective) (and put yourself in your daughter's shoes.)
my parents were fishmongers so i had to babysit and do deliveries. but i was able to understand mom because she worked twice as hard as i did. - she spared no time for herself / - of course. - so i did whatever she asked. / - right. i got married early... but that was your choice. - that was your choice. / - jiwon didn't choose.
she's still young. she needs to be taken care of. jiwon is still young. (how did jiwon feel?) when did your mom upset you the most? i had a fever as high as 38 degrees, so my parents took me to the hospital - and i had to rest. / - you were sick. mom asked me to look after the baby - while she went out for dinner with dad. / - what?
(her mom made her babysit even when she was sick.) - i told her i wasn't well. / - you were sick. (that's mean.) so when i told mom i wasn't well, she said i was selfish and that i shouldn't even call her "mom." she said she didn't want a daughter like me. that really upset me.
what was your dad doing at the time? - he didn't say anything. / - gosh. because my mom's so aggressive, dad never voices his opinions. how can you go out to eat when jiwon's sick? why did you do that? that day, even my second child was sick. i stayed up until 4:30 a.m. at the emergency room. when i finally came home, i was starving.
i was going to get kimbap but my husband was hungry, too. so i thought we'd go together. i asked jiwon to babysit for just one hour and she made such a fuss. but that's understandable, right? it's understandable... why tell her not to call you "mom" anymore? i felt so sad afterwards.
i can understand that you felt upset, but that was really very harsh. - i was so upset. / - look. put yourself in her shoes. what if she says she doesn't want you to be her mom? would you feel happy? that's very bad. - she says that very often. / - it's just very bad. according to jiwon, she says it very often.
- what? / - you tell her that very often. it's a habit then. i feel hurt every time but she says it so often that i'm getting used to it. i think her dad's attitude of not wanting to take any side for his sake - you're at fault. / - is worsening the situation. - she's right. / - don't you think there's a problem with you not saying anything?
(jiwon is sad.) even if he wants to be authoritative and say something to jiwon, he's lost the power to do so. his children are used to seeing him getting told off. now, when he says something, they would automatically disregard his opinion. it's only natural. this is not doing any good for your family.
(what is really good for the family?) (it would be nice for them to think about it together.) tell your mom what you want to change in detail. - what do you want from her? / - what do you want? - mom never celebrated my birthday. / - what? (her mom has never celebrated her birthday.) (what did she say?) she's never celebrated your birthday? (that's too harsh.)
however, when i don't celebrate her birthday, she wreaks havoc. she's so full of it. it could be just a letter. i just want a birthday gift from her. why don't you celebrate her birthday? - it's your daughter's birthday. / - that's not it. it's not that we don't celebrate. i cook special dishes for her birthday.
- jiwon and i go shopping a lot. / - okay. i don't think i have to get her something for that day. - it's her birthday. / - but you get upset. you should get her a gift because it's her birthday. - it's a special day. / - your logic is strange. your daughter is in ninth grade. even just a hair clip will mean a lot to her. she has no fond memories from you. this is the most selfish thing she's done.
i'll ask for your honest opinion on this. you came here for people's opinions on who's more selfish. what is your opinion, ma'am? i still think my daughter is more selfish. (she still thinks her daughter is selfish.) in what way? i think she could understand if she wanted to. - you're the eldest child. / - yes.
how many siblings do you have? i have a sibling five years younger than me. did you take care of him? yes. my parents were absent, so i looked after him since i was in middle school. then you must know how tough it is. (she should understand her daughter.) you must know but you still can't understand her? she doesn't babysit all the time.
- that doesn't matter. / - right. during the week, she only babysits during some evenings. she doesn't babysit at all some days. - when she... / - but she still does it a lot. babysitting is not the problem here. the problem is that you're behaving self-righteously. - that's the biggest problem. / - that's the issue, but you don't see that.
- yes. / - zyoung will go first. - what? / - you have to vote. "what?" you have to work. i was too immersed in the situation. i'm suffering right now. i have to say this. - what is it? / - tell us. as you know, we're not tender hearts.
- we're strong. / - right? we're aggressive. - of course. / - i'm not used to apologizing and i used to dread having to admit to my faults. but once i faced up to them, - i felt much lighter. / - it eases you. you feel lighter. i understand where she's coming from but she shouldn't take jiwon for granted,
so i understand jiwon, too. she should express her appreciation towards jiwon. it seems like jiwon's never had that. has she ever thanked you? - she doesn't say it much. / - i thought so. i think one kind word can melt a frozen heart. i think she's lived her life under the pressure of taking care of the family.
i hope she uses this opportunity to be a little softer to jiwon. i think that will really be great. i hope she will consider jiwon's feelings a little more. i think it's a worry. honestly, i think life was very tough for jiwon's mom. she had to be responsible for everything and she could never be weak.
i think these traits persisted after marriage. - right. / - she didn't have anyone to lean on or to tell her she's wrong. she wasn't in the position to be soft. she felt being weak would break her. (she was afraid to be weak.) (she seems strong, but as someone) (understands her, she breaks down in tears.) the family needs to tell her
that it's okay to apologize and be weak. let her know you're there for her no matter what. if you assure her - like this, / - right. she will be able to loosen up. you have your husband and your three children. you can loosen up and apologize. (perhaps they can move her heart)
(and let her see she doesn't have to be lonely.) i hope she can soften up a little. use this as an opportunity. you've been through a lot. well done for that. - it must've been tough. / - we're proud of you. you can unburden your load to your husband and to your daughter. be comforted and lean on your family. see? when we understood her,
she became softer. (the mature 16-year-old girl) (can understand her mom a little now.) (if they remember today) (and try a little harder with love,) (all the worries will disappear.) if you think this is a worry, stop! - okay. / - this is family.
please hold her hand. give her a pat on the back. please let her lean on you. he's very determined. while patting his wife, he pressed the button. (he did what had to be done.) (smiling) he's the man. please say something to jiwon. she's crying, too.
jiwon. thank you. (she expresses her belated appreciation with tears.) (i'm sorry.) i will do better from now on. please say something to your husband, too. i'm sure you never got to say sorry to him. i wasn't trying to break your spirits. i was trying to do what's best for the family.
(she was trying to do what's best for the family.) i didn't know i was doing harm, instead. (she didn't realize it was doing more harm.) (patting) i'm sorry. if you want to continue running your restaurant, you should apologize to that customer too. right. apologize to your customer. goodness.
apologize to the customer you kicked out. you were upset that the soup got in your eyes and i yelled at you not to come back. i am sorry. she's sorry. she's adorable. please reveal the result. - "dad, please" is the current winner. / - gosh. what's the score? (will we have a new winner?)
- gosh, 139. / - that's still a lot. (eliminated) good job. "dad, please" wins for the third time. we will give the winner a 1,000-dollar gift certificate. (congratulations!) until the day we are all worry-free, - we will continue to counsel you. / - thank you.
(hello counselor will always counsel you.) ("a-ing" by oh my girl)
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